Before

After

Today I had a little burst of lets organize and I completed the stack that needed to be filed! Pretty good for me.
Win for today!
Before

After

Today I had a little burst of lets organize and I completed the stack that needed to be filed! Pretty good for me.
Win for today!

Adult ADHD and clutter
I am 58 yrs old and just now accepting the reality that I have adult ADHD
One factor that is affecting my life is my clutter!
Clutter is that pile of mail waiting for me.
Clutter is that stack of paper on my desk.
Clutter is in the laundry room, bedroom, and basement.
Clutter is the struggle in my brain of where do I start?
If you struggle with clutter like I do, you are familiar with the voices in your head that are friends of the ones in mine.
I can’t get rid of it! I know I’m going to need it at some point. It has sentimental value.
And the pile gets bigger and bigger and bigger.
There is a bigger Problem though. I can’t make a decision to get the process of organizing started.
Lets tackle the piles of paper.
Should I start with separating and the filing or just touch it once and file it?
Do I have enough room in this file.
Should I have 2 files one for business one for personal?
Should I do a keep pile and a throw pile? But if I throw it away I know I’m going to need it!!!!
Forget it! I will figure this out later.
And there it is, the procrastination.
I get overwhelmed, I feel like I have a pinball game going on in my head. I get exhausted and I haven’t even completed anything. And here I am taking a nap cuz my head hurts.
My space does not inspire me. My space drains any energy I have. There is so much STUFF competing for my attention I can’t focus on anything.
Neuroscientists at Princeton showed that physical clutter competes for your attention, resulting in decreased performance and increased stress.
Clutter fills our mind with excessive stimuli causing our senses to work overtime on unnecessary or irrelevant stimuli.
Clutter constantly distracts us.
Clutter constantly reminds us that our work is never done.
Clutter, inhibits, creativity, and productivity by invading the spaces that allow us to think, brainstorm and problem solve.
Clutter makes it harder to relax, both physically and mentally
Where am I going with this? Honestly I don’t really know. Probably another facet of adult ADHD I need to research.
I do know one thing…. my mind cluttered is always there. I have spaghetti brain. Some days is foggy spaghetti brain and other days it’s sunshine spaghetti brain.
Here is where I am going to start.
It’s already getting overwhelming, so I will stop here and try and work on this.
If you Have ADHD or suspect you do, what tips do you have?
I am not a doctor. These are my opinions. If you suspect you have ADHD talk to your Dr and see if he can help you

Gratitude activities.
Studies have shown that feeling gratitude can improve sleep, mood, and immunity. Gratitude can decrease depression, anxiety, difficulties with chronic pain and risk of disease.
Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, and improve their health.
With gratitude, people acknowledge the goodness in their lives.
Being grateful also helps people connect to something larger than themselves as individuals — whether to other people, nature, or a higher power.
Gratitude helps people refocus on what they have instead of what they lack.
Self-gratitude can build confidence and help you face challenges in ways no else can. Reminded yourself of your own strengths and abilities. This will motivate you to keep going and take on the next challenge.
A few activities for practicing gratitude
Morning Coffee / Tea Gratitude – Feel the warmth of the cup. The smell of the drink. Start your beautiful day with positivity as you drink it in.
A Gratitude Letter – This can be emailed but from personal experience, a handwritten letter in a card will greatly affect the receiver with heart felt joy.
Gratitude Rock – keep a rock that brings you joy. It doesn’t matter the shape or smoothness, it’s your rock. I keep mine in my pocket. Each time I reach in and pull it out I think of something I an grateful for before I put it back.
Share family memories at a family get together.
Gratitude garden – pick a special area that makes you feel good, plant your favorite plants and flowers, add a bench or tree stump where you can sit. Relax and look around and be grateful for the beauty around you.
Keep a gratitude journal – Each day write down things you were grateful for that day. Research shows the more detailed you are the more beneficial journaling with be to your happiness and health.
The Gratitude jar – This can be any container that brings you joy. Examples, a jar , a vase, a box, a bowl, a basket… If you want, decorate it and make it special to you. Every day write down something that made you grateful that day. Try and do more than 1. Write them on special paper to make the contents look colorful on the outside. When you look at this container you will see just how much you have to be grateful for. On special occasions share some of your moments.
Keep calm. Remember when things are not going right to step back and breathe. Think about something that makes you happy. Think about something to be grateful for.

May all the negative energy bringing you down come to an end.
May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and doubt exit your mind right now.
May clarity replace confusion.
May hope replace fear.
May the light of your spirit shine so bright that nothing can dim your glow.

Meditation is a technique used to develop awareness of the present moment. Becoming aware of our thoughts, emotions, sensations, whatever is happening with an accepting, nonjudgmental disposition. Meditation can be difficult for beginners to hold their focus for longer than a few minutes at first. If your mind wanders and it most likely will in the beginning, acknowledge what interrupts you and let it go. Go back to your focus.
There are many ways to meditate.
Mindfulness Meditation -concentration with awareness of the moment. Sit, relax and breathe. Simply relax and observe quietly, returning to your breath when thoughts or sensations flow through.
Spiritual Meditation – is your way of developing a deeper understanding of your religion and your connection to your higher power through prayer. This can be done at home or at your place of worship. Sit, kneel, stand or how ever you choose to pray.
Focused Meditation – is relaxation with concentration using any of the 5 senses. Counting, listening to a song or a sound, looking at a candle.
Visualization meditation – is focused on relaxation and calmness through visualizing beautiful scenes, images or figures as you sit quietly for 5 – 10 minutes.
Progressive Relaxation – is done to reduce tension throughout your body. Starting at your head and focusing on relaxing each part of the body at you recognize as much as you can rom your head to your toes. This is also very good if you are having a hard time falling asleep.
Just to list a few.
How to start.
Find a quiet and comfortable location. Sit down in a relaxed position. In a chair, on the floor, whatever is most comfortable for you. I say start slow. Set a quiet timer for 2 – 3 minutes. Close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing. In through your nose and out through your mouth. Belly deep breathing, If your mind wanders go back to your breathing till your timer goes off. There are many videos on YouTube if that helps you. Add a minute or two each day.
Peace
Ritalong.org
Let’s bring in the new year a little more healthy, a little less stressed and a little more aware of oneself.
Self-care means taking the time to do things that help you live well and improve both your physical health and mental health.
Mindfulness is a powerful coping strategy. It lays a strong foundation in our self-care routine. What is mindfulness? Mindfulness is a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.
Here are 5 mindful tips to bring in the new year.

1. Daylight – Natural light helps our bodies produce vitamin D, improve circadian rhythms (wake – sleep cycle), it helps us focus and even makes us happier. Start your day and get your natural light before 11 AM with a simple stroll or even a morning stretch.

2. Gratitude – According to health.harvard.edu research shows gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, and improve their health. Let’s start practicing gratitude at least once a week. Find 1 to 3 things you are grateful for, write them down or just talk about them at dinner. By focusing on the positive you will feel energized, be better in your relationships, and it can help us improve our self-esteem.

3. Stretch – Medical news today states stretching improves mood and focus, relieves tension, headaches, increases blood flow, relieves stress. Follow a healthy proper stretching routine. Stretching regularly will contribute to a healthier you!

4. Mindful Hydration and Eating – Stress affects our eating, it can cause cravings of comfort food, highly processed snacks, food high in fat and calories. Mindful eating practice counteracts stress eating by increasing deep breathing, making thoughtful food choices, focusing on the meal and slow chewing. This will increase enjoyment of the meal and improve digestion. Hydration – Take a minute or two every hour or so and focus on drinking. Hydration has many benefits, reducing risk of migraines, increasing blood flow, increased energy, concentration, even lowering levels of stress and depression. Focus and appreciate the hydration of your body as you drink water.

5. Meditate – Meditation can produce a deep state of relaxation and calm mind. Take just a few minutes each day to reap the benefits. Better focus, improve self-awareness, lower levels of stress. Effects of meditation is cumulative. Taking short blocks of time, even just one minute will linger afterward and contribute and help in altering internal chemistry and nervous system.
I hope this helped you do just a bit more self-care for the new year. I appreciate you for taking the time to read this. Have a happy and safe New Year. Till next time – Breathe……RitaLong.org




